Newly Mobile Siblings: Kids Corner

Aired on Lifetime Television
Sunday, June 4 and September 24, 2006
Show 315

It's fun to watch a little one learn new things like how to walk or talk. But for an older sibling, it can be a real emotional challenge, especially when a younger one is getting all the attention. It's your child's first steps and nothing could be more exciting. A true landmark celebrated with smiles, hugs and lots of digital images to e-mail to grandma and grandpa. But some preschool age siblings are threatened by their little brother's or sister's new-found independence, and they react with behavior that's more protective and aggressive both at home and at school. Is there anything you can do to help the older children cope with their newly mobile sibling? Absolutely. Talk with your child and explain that you understand the situation. Tell them you understand how difficult it is getting used to an increasingly mobile brother or sister. Tell them it's okay to be upset by this. Letting your child know that their feelings are normal may relieve some of the guilt they may have. Identify several toys that they don't have to share and reassure them that you'll help keep them safe from the younger brother or sister. Find a place together to keep things out of reach. This is important for your child's confidence in you, and his sense of self-worth. These actions reinforce the value of his time and energy, and the fact that he still has some protection from his sibling. Knowing this protection is available may decrease his need to be so fiercely protective and lead to more independence and acceptance.