Boosting Self Esteem: Kids Corner

Aired on Lifetime Television for Women
Sunday, October 1 and December 17
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Your child's self-esteem starts developing when she's just an infant. As she tries, and fails and then tries again, she learns something about her own capabilities. And as a parent, your reactions and acknowledgement help shape the way she feels about herself. So choose your words carefully. If your child practiced hard, but didn't make the team, don't promise him he'll make the team next time. Instead, acknowledge him for trying his best and congratulate his efforts. But it's important not to overdo it. Participation trophies and ninth place ribbons can alter a child's view of reality, and will make tough criticism in the real world hard for them to deal with. Instead of competitive activities, encourage your kids to do something constructive like mentoring a younger child or volunteering in the community. Teach them to set goals. Kids need encouragement from their parents, but you can't be there all the time to hold their hand. Whether they win or lose, working at a goal will help them build character and self-confidence.